How-to books, motivational gurus and courses proliferate telling us how to how to fight, control or eradicate fear, so imagine my delight when I watched this TED talk by Karen Walker Thompson about looking at our fears as stories we tell ourselves.
Who doesn’t love stories?
Thompson said we are the authors of our fears. She talked about fear “as an act of imagination,” and said fears are unintentional stories complete with plots, characters, images and suspense.
Fears fuel creativity and writers have always used fear as fodder for stories. Being human means dealing with fears on all levels all the time. Parents fear for the wellbeing of their children, most of us have money fears at one point in our lives. Even if we have plenty, we fear losing it. If we’re healthy, we fear sickness. Many of us fear death and some people even fear success.
Thompson also says we are the readers of our fears.
We use our imaginations to predict what could happen in our lives. Choosing the scariest scenario causes the biggest emotional wallop so that’s the one we fear will happen. That process enables writers to create believable situations based on real emotions.
Now I’m looking at fear in an entirely new light. Without my fears, I’d never be able to create the stories I write. Instead of being captive to my fears, I can consciously use them to my advantage. It feels like an epiphany.
Great post Linda. This is so true. We talk ourselves into or out of every major decision we make. Sometimes we give into our fears and sometimes we fight through them.
Here is a link to an article in Psychology Today that discusses the five fears we deal with, http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainsnacks/201203/the-only-five-basic-fears-we-all-live.
I think you will find it interesting.
Hi Dennis! Thanks for the link. I’m checking it out now.
When I was younger I used to be afraid of going blind. When I was a teenager I wrote a story about a young girl who loved to paint who lost her eyesight. It’s a good reminder, I should probably consider my fears and use that in my writing now.